Sunday, May 1, 2011

His Journey Continues....

Hey Good People!!!  It's been a minute.  I hope everyone had a nice and peaceful weekend.

So I was talking to the 2nd Son the other day... I don't really recall how he and I got on the subject but he stated that he was considering moving out with a friend in a few months. I've got some serious mixed feelings about it, but keeping in mind at the same time, it's not MY decision to make.  He had some issues when he was living in the dorms last year with his room mates, which I think he handled in a very mature manner, so I had to use that as an example when talking about this possible new situation.  I had to convey to him that getting an ACTUAL apartment with a friend is a little different than living in the dorms.

I explained that although they may be friends, known each other for some time and hang out quite a bit that's not a really good indicator of what it will be like to LIVE with that person.  I had to let him know that if they have a falling out he's committed to that lease and cant just up and leave, or if that person can make their share of the rent it will be his responsibility to pick up the slack.  I just don't think it's wise, although I'm not going to stand in the way of him having that experience and learning for himself.  I just want to point out all of the facts that he needs to be cognizant of going into the situation that he, being only 20, may not really think or be aware of.

Of course we talked about the financial aspect, bills, car, insurance, and still being able to have time for school responsibilities and studying.  He's been working quite a bit for the past few months but working full time may be a bit much while trying to juggle school.  Usually he doesn't start working until the end of April or first part of May but he's been working since the end of January which is great because it's given him the opportunity to save up more money.

He's a very responsible young man and I'm extremely proud of him and all his accomplishments up to this point in his life and I know that he's going to have to make his own decisions without my influence.  I feel like if he does move out, regardless of how it turns out, it's just yet one more step in his journey to adulthood.  I'm still amazed at the fact that he'll be starting his 3rd year in just a few short months, I know he is just as amazed because we were doing his fafsa the other day and when we got to the question about what year he'll be in when school starts he was like "wow!" That's so amazing. 

Now if I could get the others to hurry and grow up things will be just gravy.  Kidding....kind of.   Lol   I know once they're grown and gone I'll be sad, crying and lonely for my kiddies, but there are times....and I have to say it's been frequently lately where I feel like...UGH!!!  They just cant grow up fast enough.  I know I'm not the only parent out there that feels that way right?  RIGHT???  Lol

Ok All.  That's going to be it for me for now.  Just wanted drop by and let you all know I'm still here and share what's going on with our family over here.  Everyone have an enjoyable week and I'll be back with you soon.

Peace and Blessings!!!!!


Jameil said...

It's gotta be extra crazy for you b/c yours are so far apart. You're gonna be filling out fafsas for the next 15+ years! LOL That wasn't right. I didn't have to do you like that. Could he do the sort of lease where he pays for his room & his friend pays for his own room. There are a lot of complexes like that near campuses.

The Goddess said...

@ Jameil. LMAO!!! And NO you know you are SO wrong for that one, but SO right at the same time.

I've never heard of that, unless you're talking about dorms. He's not doing the dorm this year they are going to lease and actual apartment. The dorms are so freaking expensive it's cheaper just renting him an apartment. I wish we had done that because it would have saved me SOOOO much money.

It'd be cool if we could find an him an apartment like that because I don't want him getting stuck where he's paying someone elses bills on top of his. I'd be HOT!!!!